WHAT BEING A MILITARY GIRLFRIEND ACTUALLY IS

It’s no secret that I live a military lifestyle. Even though I am not the one who wakes up for PT, and gets suited up in a camouflage everyday, military life effects everyone living in a military home. I wouldn’t change our lives together for the world, and I love every single minute with my military man. Today I wanted to share some specifics with you, because why not get specific?

You know?

I wanted to share some things about military life that I have personally experienced throughout my time in Savannah, GA where Zach is stationed. Many things, a lot of people don’t realize, and others are just some typical basics you might, or might not already know.

You can make plans, but they, sometimes, cannot…

 

A year ago, I remember asking Zach if we could plan to go to Lollapalooza in Chicago when the time rolled around. I clearly remember him saying, “You can buy your ticket, but I have no idea if I will be able to or not.”

Literally anything could happen. They could change his job, deny his request to leave, or even send him away and that’s that. You belong to you, and they belong to the United States of America, and sometimes, America needs your man before you do. That’s just how it is.

There are great benefits…

 

A lot of people are already informed of the fact that being in the military comes along with a lot of benefits for the active duty member, and his or her family. Small things like tax free groceries and gas on their military base. Also other big things like making it easy for military personnel to buy a home. Many places that you go to daily, such as restaurants and clothing stores, offer a military discount for those in service as well. Being just a girlfriend can mean so many different things than being a wife. You won’t get any information given to you if they deploy, you don’t get ANY of their life benefits, (insurance, you won’t get your own military card to get on base, etc.). However, that doesn’t mean you won’t get ANY information! When you get to know their friends who work with them, and their leaders, they will keep you updated on what they can for you, no doubt. Because Zach is an officer, we are able to live off of base without being married, but again, totally different for everyone!

I mean, seeing your significant other dressed up daily in uniform is a GREAT benefit too ;).

There can be a lot of moving around…

 

I’ve only personally had to make one move for our military life, and that was my initial move down south to be with Zach in Savannah. However, new orders come and it’s time to pack up and move to the next military town, and that’s just life! Sadly, many families make different moves year, after year, but I think that a positive outlook on that life is to think about all of the different cities you would never be able to see with a different job. I’ve been so lucky to have been able to meet many different military wives through blogging who have been SO helpful in my move down here. They just get it, and sometimes that’s all you need.

You meet a LOT of people…

 

Per my last paragraph, you will meet a LOT of people! I found it extremely easy to find friends by getting a job at a bar, and my blog by just using some simple hashtags for the city of Savannah. Zach has friends ALL over the United States, and even some stationed overseas. Everyone is on a different timeline in the military depending on how long they are signed for, so we have seen a lot of friends go. As saddening as that is, I like to look at it as we will always have places to visit, and somewhere to stay when we do! LOL (thanks in advance friends!!)

It can get hard…

 

Getting called into the field, a 9 month deployment, long days, early mornings, always on the clock, but loving them is SOO easy! Zach makes loving him the EASIEST thing in the world. When he comes home from work, everyday I run and jump into his arms and let him know how much I love and appreciate everything that he does everyday for not just me, but our country. When Zach was deployed, we were lucky enough to have WiFi, so we could FaceTime daily, and that was something I ALWAYS made time for. Sometimes that was the only communication we had all day, so 10 minutes to say goodnight was necessary.

SUPPORT OUR TROOPS…

 

No matter if you’re a wife, girlfriend, or boyfriend, I’ve truly found that being supportive of their career decisions are one of the BEST things that you can do. In my case, going INTO a relationship where Zach was already military, you have to be. I knew that this was what Zach wanted, and adding me into the equation could only make things harder. This is what he wants to do and you have to understand and be the best support system you can possibly be. I’m NOT telling you to have no say in anything, or ever put in input, but I am saying that sometimes their choices can mean they want to deploy, or sign on for more years, or even want to get out of the military. Sometimes, their decisions are hard, but you have to allow them to do what they love, and if they’re in the military, they obviously love their country and will do anything for it.

Zach is currently working towards getting out of the military, and I couldn’t be more proud of everything he has accomplished in his career already! He still has a lot of time left, so we’re not into full civilian life yet, but the gradual working towards that can actually be extremely scary. Zach is so brave for everything his does everyday, and I cannot wait to see what the rest of our future has to hold.

Xx

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